Dating a man with intimacy issues
Thus your date may have suffered an abandonment in childhood, probably when a parent said that he/she would come back to pick up the child, but then never came back or perhaps a parent willingly lied to him, sent him somewhere and never came back or rarely saw him again.
Alternately his abandonment issues could also be the consequence of a painful heartbreak during teenage years.
Thus, they are unable or unwilling to seek out or maintain the kinds of human intimacies that help us all to self-soothe, regulate our emotions and to simply feel communion with another.
While some of these folks may avoid close relationships altogether, some intimacy avoidant individuals do enter into friendships and romances.
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The Flounderer: He's unhappy in his career, either because he hasn't advanced as much as he thought he would have or it's not what he wants to be doing, period.
Instead of experiencing healthy bonding, children who are neglected and abused learn that intimacy is conditional or abusive, absent or overwhelming; they learn (on an emotional level) that to get to close is to get hurt, and thus it is best to fear and flee any lasting emotional connection.
The Frisky: 30 things every woman should quit doing by 30 In the last few years of dating, we've come across 10 types of "emotionally stunted" guys -- adult men who may otherwise be awesome but for some reason never matured emotionally. Here is our roundup of the top 10 types of emotionally stunted men (often seen in combination), the kind of women they're after, and what they need more than you coddling them a second longer. If his mom was coddling and overprotective, he may want you to change his diaper and wipe his nose.
These dudes are stuck in emotional "playpens" preventing them from forming healthy (and intimate) adult relationships and where the women in their lives are in the position of either pushing them around like toddlers in a baby carriage or screaming "Get up and walk on your own! Usually, emotional immaturity isn't obvious right away. If his mother abandoned him, he may be looking for a clingy lady.
If you believe that the man you are dating has abandonment issues, here are a few things to keep in mind. If you are sure or suspect that your date has abandonment issues, it may be worthwhile to know a bit more about the condition.
At its simplest, a person with abandonment issues has a perpetual fear of being abandoned by those close to him.