Reformed view on dating
Often the father would say no the first time, watching this lad to see his reaction. He has the right and duty to put up such a barricade, that only the most worthy of suiters gains entrance into the life of his cherished daughters.
After entering my email address, zip code, and height, I’m asked, “What is your body type? This paradox is one of several that causes me to wonder if increasingly popular Christian dating websites undermine the faith-values of their users.
According to them, there are four levels of dating: “group dating,” “couple dating,” “consistent dating” and “commitment dating.”“Couple dating” is defined thus: “… It may be a one-time date, or they may date occasionally.
However, neither one is committed only to the other.
For some reason, much of the Reformed community scratches their heads in bewilderment when you bring up the subject of dating.
As if the Word is silent on the subject and all we can do is hope for the best. For our youth, dating and the opposite sex is a huge part of their life no matter what we as parents would like to think. Only a few generations ago dating was almost unheard of in North America. Rothman, a secular humanist in her thesis, ‘Intimate acquaintance’: courtship and the transition to marriage in America, 1770-1900: A Finding Aid, writes, A first-class revolt against the accepted American order took place among American youth in the 1920’s.
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God will not get the fullest glory that he should have as the Father unless we come to terms with the fact that he chose me apart from anything in myself.Their smile, their sweet innocence (relatively speaking), their desire to please me in most things that they do.Yet lately, as I kiss them goodnight and tuck them into bed, there comes to my mind a very critical question, “what will happen to them in the years to come as they discover boys? Thankfully my youngest girl is only 4 and she thinks boys are pests and only slightly above the worms they chase her with. But my 9 year old is only a few years away from what the world calls the “dating scene”, and my heart trembles with what I see as an example within the Reformed Church.Either way, both understand that they will not pursue a relationship with another guy or girl” (p. One wonders how a commitment could be made without saying anything when all this while the couple has been dating without any commitment to each other.In any case the authors appear to dissuade commitment as they immediately list 4 pluses and 8 minuses for commitment dating!